Your True Love Is Your Feminine and Masculine Energy
Feminine and Masculine energy isn’t just about being a man or a woman. You’ll find your true love by developing a balance of both energies within you.
Everyone is looking for love. We are programmed to think that love is outside of ourselves. Many are searching to find the right person so they can live “happily ever after”, or “finally start their life.”
Consciously or unconsciously we are all searching for our true love. It’s an impulse, desire, hope, and dream. It’s part of who we are and our evolutionary process. Therefore this searching is not completely a bad thing. It’s just a bit misdirected. But it’s not our fault.
Look at all the romance movies we see. They always end happily. The guy comes running back declaring his love for her and they live “happily ever after.” Does this happen in real life? Not really. I think we have been sold a dream instead of learning how to create REAL relationships. How to go through the hardships and come out the other side with an open heart instead of piled up resentments.
Relationships have become disposal. If it gets too hard how often have you thought, “I’ll just find another.” The “other” you need to find is you.
Fifty Percent of the Population is Single
More people than ever are single and that’s a good thing. Many people are afraid to be single for fear of being alone. It’s a rite of passage to fully embrace singlehood. Have you had a time in your life when you were fully single? No one on the horizon? Just you, yourself and you. Or have you always been in a relationship?
When you’re single do you spent most of your time searching for another relationship? I want to encourage you to stop looking for “the one” and start looking for a balance of feminine and masculine energy within yourself. Be your man and buy yourself flowers. Be your woman and nurture yourself by taking a nice bath.
Embracing Sacred Singlehood
When I work with women I teach them about Sacred Singlehood. We never know what life will bring us or if a relationship will last. You have probably already been through a breakup. You know the pain of loss and separation. Maybe even betrayal.
Sacred Singlehood is when you claim yourself as your beloved during those times that you are single. You take yourself on dates, you enjoy spending time with yourself and you make a commitment during this time to deepen your relationship with you.
Sacred Singlehood is a beautiful time. When you embrace your time of not being with another as a time to develop the relationship you have with you, it’s powerfully transforming. Then when you do get into a relationship setting healthy boundaries and speaking your truth won’t be so hard. Because you don’t be afraid to be by yourself. This is empowering.
You stay in a relationship not for security or out of fear of being alone, but rather because you enjoy the love.
Feminine and Masculine Energy and Role Mates
Back in the 50’s is a good example of feminine and masculine energy. The men were men and the women were women. You knew as a woman you were supposed to grow up, get married and have kids. You weren’t a woman if you didn’t have children. Your job was to find a good provider and father to your children.
And men you were supposed to be in charge. Rule the roost and be the boss. Be the breadwinner for the family. Your job was to find a good wife to bare your children.
Things have changed. The roles of what a woman should do and what a man should do are not so well defined anymore. We have more flexibility to express our unique selves.
The idea of having children just because you thought you were supposed to is not a good reason to have children. Children need parents who are excited to have them in their lives. It’s a big responsibility and if you are going to do it, it’s really important to be into it.
We are moving away from the traditional norms of role mates with well-defined ways of creating families to a more creative way of living. Dads can be a stay at home Dads and moms and pursue a career. Gay couples can also adopt and raise kids. The tradition family unit still exists but now there are many different types of families. Life is not so well defined anymore.
We are moving away from role mates with well defined roles for men and woman and moving into soul mates.
Feminine and Masculine Energy and Soul Mates
The idea of soul mates, twin flames, and other such descriptions have become popular when describing experiences we have had with a lover. The idea of getting married and living with the same person for the next 30-60 years is not as common as serial monogamy. Most of us now have at least one divorce in our lifetime and multiple lovers.
Because we are moving away from a society where women are financially dependant upon men, women don’t stay stuck in relationships for years on end like they used to. I would like to think we have evolved to the point where we are in relationships because we choose to be with a certain someone not because we are stuck with them.
This is an evolutionary process of moving from role mates to soul mates to autonomous heart empowered people. Freeing ourselves from defined and rigid rules of what and how men and women should be. And instead, being our unique and wonderous selves. Then from this place of freer self-expression, creating loving relationships where we enjoy each others company and learn from each other.
We will only create these joyous, freer, more expressive relationships with another when we have cultivated that first within ourselves.
Your True Love is You
What if after all the relationship dramas of divorce, breakups, betrayals, miscommunications etc that all you had to do was to fall in love with you?
You are your true love! All you have to do is be true to you? Are you?
Do you set healthy boundaries for yourself? Or do you lose yourself in a relationship?
How much do you really nurture and take care of yourself emotionally?
I give Inner Beloved Astrology readings. In these readings, I introduce people to their astrological feminine and masculine energy imprints. No matter what your sexual orientation is, astrologically speaking, women need to develop their inner masculine, and men need to develop their inner feminine.
The idea is that no matter if you are in a relationship or not that you are walking with your inner man or inner woman by your side at all times. This create within you the sacred marriage. It is an alchemical transformation that support self-love.
Your Inner Man is your protector. He keeps you safe, helps you speak up for yourself and sets healthy boundaries for you.
Your inner woman is your softer side. She helps you to be receptive to new ideas, tune into other’s needs and be compassionate.
You need both energies. You need the qualities and benefits of both feminine and masculine energy no matter what sex you are.
This is becoming more and more important as we move away from the role mate mentality. Embracing both your feminine and masculine energy is an important part of becoming a sovereign person. Someone who doesn’t look outside themselves for answers. Or look outside themselves for love. You are your own authority. And you are your own love. It is through that deeper sense of self-love that you create a better, more evolved, healthier relationship with another.
This is an important part of our human evolution. You are your own true love. Honor your feminine and masculine energy. Know the difference between your masculine and feminine energy.
I’m Anna-Thea an author and Divine Feminine Educator. Learn to love your feminine side. And if you want to find out more about developing a deeper relationship with yourself and create more fulfilling relationships check out my online courses.