What Men Crave and Why Women Benefit When that Craving is Satisfied
What men crave most from women might surprise you. We think that men just want to have sex and many do. But there is a deeper aspect to this longing.
In this article I’d like to share with you my perspective on what men crave and how what they crave is a good thing. If both men and women can work together to satisfy this craving that I’ll discuss then we can make this a more harmonious and pleasurable world.
There won’t be the big divide between the sexes. We’ll find a place to meet in the middle and everyone, including our communities, will benefit.
You see, I imagine a world where men are our gatekeepers. They are our benevolent protectors and hold space for us, as women, to claim our true sensual and sexual divinity.
Sounds kind of idealistic but that’s my dream and in this article I explain exactly what I mean in regards to what men crave and why women can benefit when this craving is satisfied.
Men as Selfish Lovers
We have lived in a patriarchal world for over the last 2000 years. The white male has been the dominant authority. Our structures and systems in our society have been based from a white man’s point of view and mainly only taken his needs into consideration.
As of 2020 and with the advent of the coronavirus and the ensuing lockdown and the literal collapse of our society, we are witnessing the ending of this male-dominated era. Things are changing. Structures are changing. Relationships are changing.
The (now old) patriarchy affected our sexual relationships.
Men have been catered to.
Men’s sexuality is much more physical whereas a woman’s sexual response system is more emotional and sensual. Yes, these are generalities but because of the way males and females have been socialized this above statement is not far from the truth. But that is changing.
Men have been selfish lovers. Pornography has been rampant on the internet and sex and the selling of sex is a big industry. Prostitution being one of the oldest professions.
We also have had a double standard culture where it’s OK for men to be sexually promiscuous but a woman is considered a hore if she sleeps around.
A woman expressing her sexuality must show restraint. That is an unspoken societal rule. And sexual duty is a common plight of women. So they get stuck satisfying their man and the couples sexual relationship becomes no more than satisfying him.
What a Man Craves is More
Than a Dutiful Wife
He goes to bed at night, starts pawing on his wife, she spreads her legs, he gets it over pretty quickly with a few slobbery kisses, rolls over and falls asleep.
Maybe she gets up and cleans herself up. And then she finds she can’t fall alseep that easily because something in her was awakened but she has no idea what it was. She’s not connected to her body nor her divine feminine essence. But it knocks at her feminine doorway.
She thinks it’s her duty to be a good wife. And taking care of him in this way is what she believes she is supposed to do.
Day after day, night after night the couple becomes disconnected. Their sex doesn’t have any depth and both of them are dissatisfied. Both of them are longing for SOMETHING MORE.
What is this SOMETHING MORE both sexes long for?
For a man:
What men crave is a woman who is open, loving and uninhibited sexually. This is often a painfully unmet need.
For a woman:
It is a desire to express her soulful and sensual side of her sexuality. Wanting to be touched fully, deeply, and slowly. Not just her clitoris but her whole body…. her whole being.
What men crave is a woman who is connected to her body and her divine feminine essence. He may not even know that’s what he’s craving.
What men crave is our feminine radiance. Whether a woman is outerwardly drop dead gorgeous or not…. it’s a woman’s divine aura that men crave.
When a man pleasures a woman and really knows how to awaken HER sexual desires both sexes benefit. When a woman is in a state of authentic sexual pleasure her aura expands. This is a blessing for her man. He benefits from this bath of divine radiance that she emits.
A wise man told me once… “the sole purpose of a man is to penetrate a woman in such a way as to awaken her full human potential.”
I love that! We need men who have wands of light instead of swords. We need these wands of light to penetrate us in a way that empowers us. Is that happening? Not enough. There’s lots of sexual programming that needs to be looked at and healed. And when we do both sexes will benefit. We will then become each other’s healers instead of each others wounders in relationship.
I’m Anna-Thea, an author and Certified Divine Feminine Educator. If this article resonated with you please share it. If you’d like to learn more check out my online courses. Be the change you want to see in the world.