what is dark feminine energy

Answering Your Question What is Dark Feminine Energy

Why do you do what you do? What are your motivations? Especially in your intimate relationships. Answering these questions will help you to know what is dark feminine energy.

Feminine energy, like everything else, has its positive and negative expressions.

To answer the question “What is dark feminine energy?”, we need to look at the dark side of ourselves.

We tend to ignore our least desirable personality traits. Bringing more awareness to them is how we grow. To know yourself, you must accept all of you. Even your bad qualities.

We all have a dark side. In psychology, it is called the shadow. They are aspects of your personality (usually negative but not always) that you are unaware of. As much as you may not want to hear this, it is this dark side or unconscious part of you that causes challenges in your intimate relationships.

To understand another’s dark side, you must first develop compassion and awareness of your own. This is the maturation process of the soul.

What is dark feminine energy? It is the unconscious part of the feminine.

It comes in as many forms as there are aspects of our personalities.

A few examples of what is dark feminine energy are:

  • Using sex to control another
  • Being clingy
  • Lack of confidence
  • Manipulating others instead of speaking your truth
  • Having sex with someone you are repulsed by
  • Faking an orgasm
  • Being a Drama Queen

What are your expressions of dark feminine energy? How have they affected your life?

Below are 3 all too common expressions of what is dark feminine energy.

  1. Drama Queen
    Women are emotional. This is not negative. I teach women to understand how their emotions can be a source of empowerment. However, being a drama queen is a good example of what is dark feminine energy.A drama queen is when a woman has no self-awareness of her emotions. She allows herself to spin out of control like a tornado destroying everything in her path. She uses being over emotional as an unconscious way to manipulate and control.

    Society has taught you to repress your emotions. That they are bad. But the problem is that emotions don’t go away, they just come out sideways. If you are a drama queen is a good example of you not bringing the light of consciousness to the feelings you are experiencing in your body.

    When your body is experiencing uncomfortable feelings, what happens is the mind becomes overactive. You start overthinking, especially about your life challenges. Then because of your overactive mind, life becomes overwhelming, the feelings want expression and your Drama Queen alter ego takes front and center stage.

    Learning how to allow your emotions to be a source of empowerment instead of a source of sabotage, control or manipulation is a must. When you do you will transform what is your dark feminine energy into your personal empowerment.


  1. Not Honoring the Sacredness of Sexual Union 

    Sexual union is an extremely intimate act. Far too many people, both men, and women take sex and sexual union too lightly.My teacher once told me, “sex is very sticky.” She was not referring to the messiness of our fluids. She was referring to the bond that is creating when two people have intercourse.

    Energetically, sexual union binds two people together. In the name of free love and sex, and even women’s liberation, many women ignore this dynamic, suffering greatly later because of it.

    Taking On Another’s Karma


    Some spiritual traditions believe when you have intercourse with another you take on their karma. If this is true, having sex with a stranger, takes on a whole new perspective. What are you getting into? Besides the risk of STD’s, what are you walking away with? Someone else’s problems?

    I do know that when you have sex with a man, as a woman, it is very easy to receive his imprint. Especially if he is someone you have an ongoing sexual relationship with. That is why many women don’t do well with the “friend’s with benefits” arrangement.

    Women, women’s bodies and their sexuality are to be honored. And it is an inside job. When a woman does not honor her femininity, the sacredness of sexual union and how it affects her emotional, spiritual, psychological being, everyone loses.

    Disempowered women create a disempowered world. A good example of a disempowered woman is a woman who feels she must fake an orgasm.


  1. Faking Orgasm 

    I am a woman’s advocate, especially for women’s pleasure. One of the courses I teach is called Manifesting More Pleasure. It is my grandiose belief the key to peace on the planet is through having women experience more pleasure in the bedroom.Faking an orgasm is what I consider a dark expression of feminine energy. The female body was designed for pleasure. I like to consider the whole of a woman’s body her pleasure center and not just her genitals and breasts. The key thing here though is that it is pleasure for her first and foremost and not strictly for someone else.

    I am currently teaching my Manifesting More Pleasure course and what has come up quite a bit in the discussion is a woman’s feeling of duty in the bedroom. It is a sad state of affairs if a woman must feel a sense of duty when it comes to intimacy with the man she loves and with whom she is sharing her life with.

    Never Fake An Orgasm



    Never faking an orgasm, ever again, is the single biggest thing a woman can do to free herself from dark feminine energy. Nobody benefits when she fakes an orgasm. One of a man’s deepest desires is to see a woman in a state of pleasure and ecstasy. Unfortunately, all too often women are putting on a show in the hopes of getting it over with.

    Please don’t do this! It completely confuses your sexual response system. Women have enough of a problem receiving the pleasure they deserve. Confusing the sexual response system just makes it worse.


Your dark feminine energy isn’t BAD. It is simply the unconscious part of you wanting to become conscious. Ultimately you, like everybody else, just want to be loved.

In conclusion, there are many expressions of dark feminine energy just as there are many expressions of good and bad. Being a drama queen, not honoring the sacredness of sexual union and faking orgasms are just 3 examples of what is dark feminine energy. What is it for you? Your feminine soul is yearning to grow by bringing more awareness to your dark side.

I’m Anna-Thea, an intimacy coach, educator, and author. If this article resonated with you and you would like to learn more about how to become a more conscious woman please visit www.LeaderofLove.com




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