What Women Wish Men Knew About WHY They Reject Them Sexually
Sexual intimacy and rejection can go hand in hand, unfortunately, more often than most would like. Sometimes, I think the big cosmic joke of humanity is how men and women, in the sexual intimacy department, are designed. I imagine “those in charge” saying, “Let’s put these two (man and woman) together on planet earth and let them figure it out. Ha! Ha!”
Sexual intimacy and rejection is something no one likes to experience.
Men’s sexuality is completely different from women’s. No wonder sexual intimacy and rejection can happen. Women’s sexuality has been underrepresented. Even the anatomy of a woman’s clitoris is still unknown to many.
None the less, I like to think we are magically complimentary. However, this is only when I am optimistic about the challenges that exist. When it comes to sexual intimacy and rejection, we are dealing with a complex situation.
When discouraged about these differences I want to use the word opposite instead of complimentary. Yet, there is something magical happening regarding sexuality and our evolution. I don’t think any one person has all the answers either. These are the mysteries of life and what we are here to learn.
Sexual intimacy and especially sexual pleasure for women is often a tricky thing. What women wish men knew about for why they reject them sexuality is a complex exploration. However, I would like to discuss three things regarding sexual intimacy and rejection, that I believe are common themes women wish men knew about.
Women’s sexual response system responds to slower touch. A woman doesn’t want to be grabbed or groped at. Men, if you think you’re touching her in a soft way, chances are you could probably touch even softer and even slower.
The main thing about slowing down is not having an agenda. Having sex with a woman is not like going for the goal post. This is not a sports event. This is another human being with a complex nervous system and sexual response system. Awakening a woman’s sexual desire is a process, not a race.
When a woman feels she has to respond in a certain way (and fast) during sexual intimacy it will shut her sexual response system down.
When you’re able to SLOW DOWN and I mean REALLY SLOW DOWN, you are giving her the impression that you’re not in a hurry. If she is attracted to you, she wants all the time in the world with you. She wants it to last. Slowing down will decrease your odds of being rejected.
It Takes 72 Hours To Prepare a Woman For Sex
A common thing I hear from women is when going to bed or waking up, her man is wanting sex. He seems to have forgotten about the unresolved argument the day before. Sexual intimacy with a woman doesn’t work that way.
If you want to increase your chances, take 3 days to prepare her. Treat her like a queen. Say nice words to her. Tell her how much you appreciate and admire her. Our sex organs aren’t just between our legs. You’ll go a lot further in getting her to say yes if you give her warm fuzzies as opposed to cold or room temperature prickleys. In other words, don’t take her for granted. Don’t assume your sexual satisfaction is her “duty.” That isn’t fun for you either.
Sincere words of affirmation and appreciation go a long way in getting a woman ready to receive you. Make sure you do that 72 hours before wanting sex with her. If you want sex every day then appreciate her every day.
It Is Not All About Your Penis
When I teach women about sexuality and sexual intimacy I talk about masculine forms of sexuality and feminine forms of sexuality.
Masculine forms are focused and goal oriented. Feminine forms are fluid and, well, slower, as mentioned earlier. Masculine forms are physical whereas feminine forms are subtle.
Both men and women can enjoy masculine and feminine forms of sexual expression. And some women have a very masculine orientation with their sexuality. However, when it comes to pleasing a woman, don’t make it all about your penis. If your focus is mainly getting it up, getting it in and getting it off, she will sense that. And often, it simply turns her off.
You’ll increase your chance of acceptance if you make other things your focus. Such things as gazing into her eyes, making sure she feels comfortable, tuning into her and finding out what pleases her.
Penises are a wonderful part of male anatomy. They are to be celebrated. However, it’s important during the sex act to put your penis in perspective. Equal mattering is a good rule to apply.
The female counterpart, a woman’s Yoni, is to be celebrated too.
Make sure that when you’re approaching a woman sexually that you don’t make it all about your penis. You’ll definitely increase your chances drastically of her not rejecting you.
Men, we want to celebrate, accept, and never reject you. Please just slow down, prepare us 72 hours in advance and don’t make it all about your penis. You’ll find lots juicier sexual intimacy in your future.
I’m Anna-Thea, an intimacy coach, author, and educator. I love to teach women more about their bodies and how to create more enhanced sexual intimacy experiences. If this article resonated with you and you would like to learn more check out my online courses.