What’s Keeping You From Creating More Self Pleasure?
Women are realizing that self pleasure and having a relationship with your sexuality (un-defined by another) is not only crucially important, but it’s also empowering.
Then… what’s getting in the way of you feeling more self pleasure?
Your female mind!
Men have a one-track mind. It is actually true! Women, on the other hand, have 6 tracks. You, as a woman, have more “tracks” that must slow down for you to experience self pleasure in your life. You are wired for pleasure but your mind gets in the way.
As a woman, you have 5 more tracks than a man. A woman’s mind is busy! It’s more integrated with the left and right hemispheres having more connections. That’s why we are better multi-taskers.
Because of these extra tracks and connections, you can also easily get stuck in your head, not even knowing it, causing yourself and your loved ones all kinds of emotional upset.
Self Pleasure Tip #1
Be in the Present
When you are in your head you are either in the future or in the past. You are not being present. You are fearful of the future or upset about something in the past with “should have’s”, “could have’s” or “would have’s”. The mind is always either in the past or in the future, whereas the body is always in the present.
It’s the present moment where all the joy is. The more you can be in the present moment, the less stress, and more fulfilling a life you will lead.
Since you as a woman have 5 more tracks in your brain than a man, it is imperative for you to learn techniques to live life in a way that will support calming those extra tracks down. It takes five times more effort for you to get into your body than it does for a man. Men can be in their minds too, however, women are energetically much more busy in the head than men.
You will never learn to love your body from your mind. You will only learn to love it from inside your body, being in it, feeling it from inside each cell. When you have that experience you will know what I mean.
What is “Being in your head!”
You might wonder, “What do you mean by “in your head”?” A perfect example is when you are in bed with your man, lover or partner, in an intimate exchange, and you are thinking about work, the laundry or the kids coming in. You are in your head and not in your body.
Or, if you are making love and thinking about how you look rather than how you feel, you are in your head and not in your body! You are missing out on a lot of pleasure. If you want to experience more overall pleasure in your life, especially in your intimate relationship, you need to get out of your mind and into your body!
Self Pleasure Tip #2
Deep Breathing to Get Out of the Mind
What is the best way to do that you ask? The breath! Deep breathing in all of its forms is the best way for you as a woman to calm those 5 extra tracks down and experience the joys of being in your body, and really the joys of being alive.
If you are not doing some form of deep breathing on a regular basis (including and excluding in bed) then you are living in your head. NOT a fun way to live. It takes a level of commitment to set aside a portion of your day and life to make sure you are not living in your head.
The time spent is well worth it. You will feel more alive, calm, less emotional, less stressed and more sensually alive to name a few benefits.
Deep breathing techniques are extremely effective in handling depression, anxiety, and stress-related disorders, including eating disorders and obesity. Deep breathing gives your heart a good workout and very quickly pumps lots of oxygen into your cells, especially those that may have been operating at a reduced capacity, such as the cells that are in the area of your body that you have been critical of.
Shallow Breathers Experience Less Pleasure
Shallow breathing is what we do when we are stressed and leaves our body with a decreased supply of oxygen for optimal health. Deep, rhythmic breathing expands the chest, diaphragm, and lungs which invoke the relaxation response, and massages the lymphatic system.
The heart is the pump for the circulatory system, and the breath and movement are the pumps for the lymphatic system. Deep breathing helps the lymphatic system do its job, which is to flush out toxins from your body. This will also keep your thoughts from becoming toxic.
Deep breathing also helps you to establish a healthy relationship between your body and your mind. The best part is that there are no negative side effects to deep breathing. It is just plain good.
What can you do today to get more breath into your body? Take a brisk walk, turn on some music and dance, take a kundalini yoga class or other types of yoga classes. Commit to moving your body and getting breath into your lungs regularly.
Don’t forget, you have a very busy mind simply because you are a woman. Making sure that you are doing some form of exercise that involves getting your heart rate up and breathing fully into your body will fill your life up with joy, happiness, and more self pleasure!
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I’m Anna-Thea, an author and Certified Divine Feminine Educator. I support women to create a more pleasurable life. Self pleasure starts with self-love. Women tell me, “I need to love myself more, I just don’t know how.” I have easy to access and use online courses that give you the tools you need to create more pleasure in your life.