Mirroring in Romantic Relationships: What You Need to Know
Mirroring in romantic relationships happens automatically. When you become aware of it you gain greater insights and awareness about yourself. In that way we can say, intimate relationships are personal growth machines.
When you look into the mirror you see a reflection of what you look like on the outside.
When you are in a relationship your partner becomes a mirror of what you look like on the inside.
Whatever you see in your partner may be a reflection of you. And it is often something you don’t readily see in yourself.
With that said… let me ask you:
- What bothers you about your partner?
- What do you admire about your partner?
The mirroring in romantic relationships and its effect works both ways. Whatever you notice that is different from you in your partner, in some way… you have it too. Or it is something you have but want to develop more of.
Notice things you admire about your partner. Are they qualities that you could benefit from developing more of?
Notice things that bother you about your partner. In what way are you exactly like that?
You seeing something negative in your partner can actually serve a positive function.
Maybe you feel your partner lacks commitment and you find yourself judging them or complaining to them about it. When you are pointing a finger at someone remember there are three fingers pointing back at you. If you’re being triggered by your partner’s lack of commitment use that awareness to look inside yourself and see where you may be lacking commitment.
Whenever you complain about anyone know that in some form or fashion… you have it to.
If you are complaining about someone working to hard, being too lazy, not being present, being too messy etc. Take those complains and see where you are just like that. It is humbling and ego shrinking when you take the time to let your relationships be a mirror to you to let you know what is really going on inside yourself. Become aware of the mirroring in romantic relationships can be profoundly eye-opening.
When you take the time to see this inner reflection you’ll live beyond blame. You’ll give yourself an opportunity to strengthen your character and develop a deeper sense of self-love.
What do you see in your partner? How is your partner mirroring YOU back to YOU? What can you learn from becoming aware of this mirroring in your romantic relationship? It’s worth the look.
In conclusion, your romantic relationship is a powerful path for your own personal developmet and growth. Are you taking advantage of such a poweful opportunity? Remember, what you see in your partner, both good and bad, is simply a reflection of you.
I’m Anna-Thea, an author and Certified Divine Feminine Educator. If you’d like to have more love in your life and learn more about better relating check out my online courses.
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