How to Take Care of Yourself Emotionally by Understanding Energy
Daily life and interactions with others are similar to bumper cars. All of us bump up against each other energetically.
Each of us has our own agenda, things we want to do in our lives. You may experience someone’s agenda bumping up against your desires. This creates resistance for you in reaching your goals, especially if you don’t know how to take care of yourself emotionally.
This resistance is part of life and why taking care of yourself emotionally and understanding energy is so important. Our auras, the energy fields around us, can contract and become, in a sense, dented. We can then feel out of balance, lethargic, depressed, and confused.
To take care of yourself emotionally it is extremely important to understand energy dynamics and healthy energetic boundaries. Knowing how to establish healthy boundaries is how you create healthy relationships.
Establishing healthy boundaries require self-awareness. Having a sense of self-esteem is also important because it gives you the strength and will to set healthy boundaries in the first place. If you are not used to setting healthy boundaries, doing so is a building block to greater self-esteem.
With greater self-esteem, your interactions become life-enhancing instead of life-depleting. You are able to energetically protect yourself and not inappropriately take on other people’s problems or issues as your own. Awareness of your inner world, your feelings, and your needs creates an energetic boundary. This is all part of knowing how to take care of yourself emotionally.
Expressing and communicating your needs to others in a productive and heart-centered way is an important part of knowing how you take care of yourself emotionally and keep your energy field strong.
Keeping your energy field strong protects you from get pulled into something that’s not in your highest good. You’re still loving and supportive, however, you maintain a clear sense of self. You won’t fall prey to becoming a rescuer, being dominated, over-controlling, over-emotional, manipulative or losing yourself in relationship; qualities of a dysfunctional relationship that leave you feeling disempowered and drained of energy.
We didn’t learn how to take care of ourselves emotionally. Keeping your energy field in tact by setting healthy boundaries wasn’t commonly taught or role modeled. Because of this it is easy for us to take on other people’s energy as our own.
Anatomically, you, as a woman, were designed to bear children. This inherently gives you caretaking and nurturing qualities. Those qualities can leave you vulnerable to becoming codependent if you haven’t done the inner work to take care of yourself emotionally and create healthy boundaries in your relationships.
Your needs easily get buried because you are tending to others needs too much.
Have you ever…
Lost yourself in a relationship?
Sacrificed your personal needs for the needs of another to the point that is beyond normal self-sacrifice and caring?
Looked to others for approval when you really needed to accept yourself?
Imagine what that does to your body’s energy field, let alone your identity and power. It is always good to give to others, but when you don’t take care of your own physical, emotional, and spiritual needs first, you are unable to give to others in a healthy way.
Relationships are Everything
Relationships are everything. “Aho Mitakuye Oyasin” is a Lakota Indian term meaning “All My Relations.” It acknowledges our inter-connectedness. Healthy relationships are inter-dependent rather than codependent.
You can only establish healthy relationships if you know how to take care of yourself emotionally and energetically protect yourself.
Relationships affect you. Whether you are in a love relationship or not, you are “in relationship.” You are in relationship with your parents, siblings, and coworkers, to name a few. Most important, you are in relationship with yourself. If you want to have healthy relationships, it is crucial to have healthy energetic boundaries.
Practicing healthy boundaries enables you to maintain a healthy energy field around your body. You won’t get drained and lose your pep for life when you know how to take care of yourself emotionally and set healthy boundaries for yourself.
Victim and Perpetrator
Unhealthy relationships lack the necessary amount of communication, cooperation, and co-creation to make life enjoyable. Typically one person supports and even enables another’s addiction or destructive behavior. They become co-dependent, becoming the rescuer thinking they are being helpful. Being pre-occupied with another’s needs gives them a sense of self.
Codependents are often victims. A victim needs a perpetrator. Energetically, the perpetrator dominates your energy field. Your energy field is contracting and becoming smaller. On an energetic level, you would see a small energy field being overcome by a larger energy field. The larger energy field is not all of that person’s energy. The perpetrator is “taking” your energy.
You can also take on other’s emotions, become overemotional, erratic, or agitated simply because you are connected to someone unable to express their feelings. They have no idea how to take care of themselves emotionally. Energetically you become the responsible party.
Maintaining Your Bright Energy
Most of us take a shower on a regular basis, if not daily. If you are healthy, you brush your teeth regularly too. When you take care of yourself emotionally and set healthy boundaries, it is like brushing away the buildup of daily “bumper car” life. It is important to address built up relationship tension.
If you didn’t brush your teeth, you would have tooth decay, bad breath, and gum disease. If you never took a shower, you would have an unpleasant body odor and a layer of grime coating your body. Others might not find it very pleasant to be around you, and you probably wouldn’t feel good in your body, either.
The same happens if you don’t cleanse your energy field on a regular basis by setting healthy boundaries and taking care of yourself emotionally. Built-up tension, stress, and emotions will cling to your body and energy field. You can easily become confused and lack clarity in your relationships.
Boundaries or Barricades
Relationship dynamics can take on different energetic forms. In a love relationship, this is often the case. As a result, it takes a tremendous amount of self-love, self-nurturing, and healthy boundary-setting to bring your energy field back to its normal and natural bright self.
Establishing healthy boundaries can be challenging, but it is a must in order to keep your body’s energy field bright, live in your truth, and not lose yourself in a relationship. One of the challenges is determining when a boundary becomes a barricade. What is the balance between self-care and caring for others?
It can be difficult to identify a healthy boundary. It is similar to walking a tightrope. There is a fine line between you and others, especially those close to you. Our interconnectedness helps us to learn from each other. That is why it is important to ongoingly cultivate a sense of self which is an important part of knowing how to take care of yourself emotionally.
Keeping the integrity of your energy and staying centered requires that you care for it just as you care for your body, your teeth, or your hair. Try to recognize what happens when your energy shifts downward or contracts due to interactions with others.
Take the necessary steps to go inward to discover and acknowledge your needs. Then voice your truth from your heart and energetically stay centered. This will keep your energy field in a state of integrity.
Your Relationships Will Improve
As you learn healthy boundaries and are able to get in touch with yourself emotionally, your body’s energy field will expand. You will develop more compassion for yourself and others. Your relationships will improve.
You will experience more joy in your relationships because you have learned not to hold onto uncomfortable emotions and the associated dysfunctional behaviors that bring a relationship down. Your relationships won’t become tainted and toxic. Your energy field will be bright, powerfully invincible and pure.
I’m Anna-Thea, an intimacy coach, and educator. I can teach you how to set healthy boundaries in your relationships. And you will feel more vitally alive because of it. If you would like to find out more about my teachings please visit www.LeaderofLove.com