How To Take Care of Yourself And Overcome Emotional Eating
Overcoming emotional eating can be very challenging. When you are in the throws of this vicious cycle it can really bring you down. I know, because I used to be in it. But I know what it takes to free yourself from this painful pattern.
- Are you an emotional eater?
- How has it affected your life?
- If you were free from emotional eating how would that change your life?
I suffered from emotional eating most of my young adult life. It started when I tried to lose weight as a teenager all the way through until I got into yoga in my late 30’s. That’s a long time to suffer. And suffer I did! I hated how food had control over me and it made me hate myself.
The Self Loathing Cycle
The cycle of binging and then beating yourself up the next day is a horrible cycle to be in. You end up having an out of control relationship with food. And it’s a type of relationship that feeds self-hate.
Do you find yourself…
- Obsessing about what you’re going to eat.
- Thinking about what you should and shouldn’t eat.
- Being critical of what and how much you eat.
- Strict rules and regulations in your mind about food.
- Looking down at your belly with judgment, loathing, and even disgust.
And still feeling deprived because when you do indulge you eat so much to the point that it doesn’t even taste good. You’re just going through the motions of “stuffing your face” and not really tasting and enjoying the food. Why? Because you have feelings you don’t want to feel.
Stuck in the grips of emotional eating
is a painful way to live.
Overcoming emotional eating can seem far out of reach when you are stuck in it. But there is a way out.
How Do You Stop Emotional Eating?
How much has binge eating and emotional eating been a part of your life?
Overcoming emotional eating requires one simple thing. You need to learn how to feel your feelings. That’s it! If you know how to feel your uncomfortable feelings you’ll be well on your way to overcoming emotional eating forever. Yes, you may turn to food as a way to nurture yourself but it won’t turn into an out of control binge.
Why Do You Have an
Emotional Attachment to Food?
Emotional eating happens because you are emotional… right? You turn to food consciously or unconsciously because something triggered you and caused an uncomfortable feeling to arise. If you’re stuck in emotional eating habits you probably don’t even notice it anymore. You just go straight to the refrigerator or the store to buy your bing items.
It’s like an unconscious ceremony. Before you know it, your stomach is uncomfortably full. It’s become an unconscious habit. But there are many reasons why you turn to emotional eating.
We are programmed from childhood to turn to food for comfort. Food is normal and natural and good. But when you’re stuck in unconscious eating patterns the food can have an ugly grip on you.
Overcoming Emotional Requires…
Bottom line… overcoming emotional eating requires your ability to feel your feelings. Food is a sensual experience. Women are sensual beings. We are naturally “feelers.” But you probably didn’t learn how to feel, especially not your uncomfortable feelings.
More likely, you were taught to be a good girl and put on a smiley face, pushing those uncomfortable feelings down deep. Learning how to process your emotions is the number one biggy to free yourself from the cycle of food obsessions, binge eating, emotional eating, and all that has to do with “stuffing your face” instead of feeling your feelings.
How Do You Fix a
Bad Relationship with Food?
First and foremost, overcoming emotional eating doesn’t require you to fix the relationship you have with food. That’ll happen automatically when you fix the relationship you have with you.
Upping your self-love. Feeling your feelings. Learning how to speak up for yourself and not deny what’s going on inside you.
With that said, how can you change your mind about food? The next time you are pulled toward emotional eating, stop and go inward instead. Food is a form of comfort deeply programmed into us. Cultivate a deeper sense of self-love, nurturing, and comfort by learning “food free” forms of love, comfort, and self-nourishment.
All you have to do is learn other forms of self-comforting. And make those your new habit. I make it sounds so easy. I know when you are in the cycle of emotional eating it is actually the furthest thing from simple. But keep forging forward with everything I am suggesting.
Keep your focus on a pleasurable outcome and not a painful outcome, i.e. overeating and then regretting it. So for example, now I’d rather get a massage than eat a big fat piece of delicious carrot cake. And by the way, I still do love carrot cake. It just doesn’t have the pull it used to have. A nice massage sounds so much better!
It’s really about learning how to transform self-loathing into self-loving.
Transform Self-Loathing into Self-Loving
I’ve programmed myself to crave sensual comfort. And you can do the same. I have turned my self-loathing into self-loving and sensuality. It’s changed my life. And I’ve become the sensually aware woman that I really want to be. I know how to access and unlock the healing power of my divine feminine energy.
There are many sensual and soul-freeing activities you can do instead of turning to food. Though a complex behavior, emotional eating, on a very basic level, is simply a habit you can change. Here are some things you can do to create a more sane, and sensually empowered life. One that supports your inherent sensual nature and awakens your divine feminine power.
10 Things to Do Instead of Emotional Eating
- Take a bath.
- Take a walk.
- Dance sensually.
- Belly breathe.
- Cry and hold yourself.
- Do a guided meditation.
- Stop and ask yourself, “What do I need right now?”
- Feel the desire, and see what is underneath it.
- Go to your favorite yoga class.
- Clean your house until it is spotless.
Take a piece of paper out, yes right now, and make your own list of ten things you can do instead of emotional eating. Put it on your refrigerator, in your refrigerator, on your bathroom mirror, or wherever you feel it will be most effective.
Focus on developing these new sensually nourishing habits and you’ll be well on your way to overcoming emotional eating.
I’m Anna-Thea, an author and Certified Divine Feminine Educator. I teach women the art of self-love and emotional empowerment. If this article resonated with you check out my online courses.