Is Your Feminine Energy Blocked? Find Out Now
Did you know that, as a woman, you have both masculine and feminine energy? Though you anatomically may be male or female you’re not masculine OR feminine… you’re a blend of both. You might even have more masculine energies given we live in such a “masculinized” society.
If you’ve been career oriented it could be that you’ve lost your feminine edge. Instead, you’ve spent time sharpening your masculine edge. This is very common in the corporate world. You’ve had to toughen up to be successful in a “man’s world.”
Possibly working harder and smarter with less promotions and pay.
Have you gotten out of touch with your feminine side in the process?
Has your female energy gone into hiding?
What feminine aspects are missing in your life?
And how would developing them create more happiness?
First, you need to become aware of the masculine and feminine aspects you’re expressing. Can you tell if you have more masculine or feminine energy? Do you know the difference between these two energies?
What is feminine energy?
Feminine energy is soft, fluid, allowing, and nurturing. It is sensual and emotional. Feminine energy is receptive therefore empathetic and flexible. It has the ability to go with the flow. And most of all the feminine energy is healing because it is expressed through the subtle realm.
Masculine energy on the other hand is focused, goal-oriented, stable, strong, structured, logical, driven, and expressed through the physical realm.
How much do you
love your feminine side?
The biggest benefits for me of loving my feminine side has been knowing how to take care of myself emotionally. Really honoring my emotions instead of “armoring up” and denying them. Or thinking my emotions are bad and something I have to hide.
A skill that has served me well in the midst of life’s stresses and pressures is mastering my emotions. For that reason getting connected to the feminine aspects within me has been extremely healing and empowering. Simply put, when you love and honor your feminine side you’ll have a more balanced and happier life.
How Do You Awaken
Related: How to Channel Feminine Energy
As mentioned earlier, feminine energies have the qualities of softness, receptivity, and nurturing. These qualities draw on intuition and tapping into those things that aren’t necessarily seen with the naked eye. Seeing beyond what is there and somehow knowing.
A mother, for example, knowing how to take care of her newborn and having to sense the baby’s needs. Tuning into the baby because it doesn’t yet have a voice to explain why it may be crying.
Love is a Feminine Quality
The act of self-care is a feminine quality. Loving and nurturing yourself is also a feminine quality. All people could develop more of these qualities. But instead, we live in a “get over it” and “not enough” culture.
Knowing that you are perfect whole and complete just the way you are is an act of love. And it’s a feminine trait greatly needed on our planet and in our societies. Take the Love Quiz I designed to get you started on deepening one of the most important feminine qualities… love.
Feminine energy is about
Being rather than Doing
Feminine energy is learning how to BE. Feminine energy is receptive. Therefore being feminine means being receptive. Just like women anatomically are “the innies”, female energy is about staying open to receive; receive intuitive guidance, receive touch, receive support for example. Not having to go anywhere, do anything, or “make something happen.”
Feminine energy is about slowing down and relaxing, letting go and allowing the flow of life to take its course. It’s about being present and not directing the flow of events as much as allowing the events to unfold. Going with the flow is an example of feminine energy.
You awaken your feminine energy by:
- Slowing down
- Going with the flow
- Becoming more receptive
- Not having to go anywhere or do anything
But too much feminine energy can leave you vulnerable.
Your Feminine Energy and Vulnerability
Are you afraid of your feminine side because you think it will leave you too vulnerable? You know your feminine energy is out of balance or expressing it’s dark side when you’re sacrificing your truth. Possibly even allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.
Are You a People Pleaser?
For example, someone asks you to do something that you know isn’t what you want but you keep your mouth shut and don’t say anything because you don’t want to hurt them. And you want to be accepted by them.
You say yes to their request when you really want to assert yourself and say no. You “go along to get along” with a person or a group of people and you sacrifice what is true for you.
And are there times when you put on a happy face and pretend that everything is okay when you’re, especially over time, feeling resentful? You tell yourself, “I should have said no from the very beginning. Look what I have gotten myself into.”
This is an unhealthy expression of your feminine side. This can happen both in your career and in intimate relationships. Your feminine energy is not supporting you. It needs to be balanced and contained with healthy masculine energy.
Creating a Healthy Container for Your Feminine Energy
Healthy boundary setting is a great way to tap into your masculine energy and use it to protect your powerful feminine side. Do you know how to set healthy boundaries for yourself?
Your masculine energy would be, in this case, your protector. It would be assertive and give you the courage to speak your truth and stand up for yourself. Giving you the ability to say, “Thanks, but no thank you” or “That doesn’t work for me”, for example.
You need to balance your energies of asserting yourself vs going with the flow. And having the discernment of these actions. Developing greater awareness of these energies will create a more harmonious life for yourself.
You’ll then know when to move forward, when to step back and when to stay still in life situations. So even as a woman, masculine energy is important to have, but in balance.
You could also call setting healthy boundaries using your assertive feminine power. Because setting healthy boundaries aren’t barricades. You aren’t shutting people out of your heart. Maybe you won’t see them anymore but your heart isn’t closed off.
You’re not holding resentments or fantasies of revenge in your heart. Feminine power is strong yet soft; loving yet not wishy-washy. And above all it’s forgiving. That’s why unlocking your divine feminine energy will heal your relationships. Including the one you have with yourself.
Have You Gotten Out of Touch with Your Feminine Side?
It’s easy to get out of touch with your feminine side when living in such a masculine world.
A woman with too much masculine energy may be successful in the corporate world but is she happy at home?
You see, masculine energy is single focused. It’s physical rather than subtle. Masculine energy is about Doing rather than Being.
It’s logical rather than intuitive and emotional; if you can’t see it then it doesn’t exist. Masculine energy is the container and the water inside the container is the feminine. If you didn’t have the container the water would be a mess all over the floor. So we need both.
Just as men anatomically are the “outies”, masculine energy is a giving energy or an energy that is moving outward, penetrating and directing energy in a certain way. Your masculine energy is your protector when used in a healthy way.
Are You Over Controlling?
A woman with too much masculine energy is over-controlling. Again this may (or may not) work in your career. Things are changing. But does it work in your close relationships? Does it support nurturing, care and connection?
But the truth is, in some way or another, we are all controlling. We must take charge of our lives. Nonetheless, we don’t live in a vacuum and there are other people to consider.
If you’re overbearing and have impulses to control your environment, including other’s actions, you’re showing too much masculine energy. You’re micromanaging your life and not trusting in the process. You can’t change other people, the only person you can change is yourself.
Are You Micro-Managing Others?
Being out of touch with your feminine side means you’re resisting life itself. When you try to manage everyone in your life and take charge of others, especially without their consent or consideration, you disconnect from the flow of life. Without trusting in the process and knowing others have their own inner guidance, you create a disconnect in your relationships.
Women with masculine energy and over-controlling behaviors aren’t always so obvious. They can take the form of subtle or not so subtle manipulation. Are you manipulating without even knowing it… or do you know?
That’s GI Joe tactics and that doesn’t support you in embracing the feminine.
Are You Always Busy?
Another good example of not embracing femininity is when you can’t slow down and relax. You must stay busy.
- Working way too much!
- Busy keeping your house perfectly clean.
- Always busy tending to other’s needs more than your own.
- The person who “loves to much” and loses themselves.
- “Over service” to kids and family – “helicopter mom”
Is your mothering actually out of touch with the true feminine? Trying to control your child’s every move isn’t how to embrace feminine energy. Even though traditionally child-rearing has been a female task.
Are You a Super Mom
or Super Wife?
Though it’s changing, culturally we have praised the super mom or super wife. You’d think a super mom is an expression of abundant feminine energy. But a super mom is actually out of touch with her feminine side.
These women don’t know the fine art of slowing down and taking care of themselves. They’ve lost connection to being feminine. Their focus is outward (masculine) toward other members of the family.
Supermoms and other women with masculine energy don’t take time to slow down, go inward, and tap into the self-nurturing energies of exploring one’s inner world. Their attention is so focused on other’s wants and needs, they have a tough time tapping into their own.
Slowing Down Means Having to Feel
If they were to slow down they would have to face themselves. What they might find are uncomfortable feelings such as boredom, fear, anxiety, worry or frustration. It actually takes courage to slow down and be in your feminine.
It’s because our culture has conditioned us to run from uncomfortable feelings. Staying busy instead of stopping to feel. By creating a super busy lifestyle of doing, doing, doing you lose connection to the healing properties of the feminine and her state of being.
A famous spiritual teacher Marianne Williamson said in one of her blog articles about holistic feminism, “I experienced a disconnection from my feminine self as I strove to actualize the masculine within me. Finding the complementary relationship between my inner and outer self has been a life-long effort.” So don’t be hard on yourself as you find the balance between your masculine and feminine energy.
The above examples show us where masculine or feminine energies are out of balance and aren’t expressed in healthy ways.
3 Quick Ways for
Embracing the Feminine
Chances are you could afford to cultivate a bit more feminine energy in your life. This wonderful healing force that raises your vibration and helps you to feel like you matter.
To balance your Masculine and Feminine energies ask yourself:
- What do you need more of? More doing or more being?
- Do you need to be more allowing or assertive?
- Can you speak up for yourself?
- Are you speaking your truth and creating healthy boundaries?
Life is a dance. Relationships are a dance. The interplay with others is a delicate, ever-changing process. Learn how to embrace your feminine energy. And become aware of when you are using too much masculine energy. Strive for healthy expressions of both.
It’s important for good relating. And knowing how to express these energies in healthy ways is how you create true intimacy.
Avoid expressing the dark side of the feminine. We’re all looking for love but all too often we’re looking in the wrong places. Outside of ourselves! And with lots of expectations.
But when you cultivate self-love through developing an inner awareness of your positive masculine and positive feminine you’ll attract in a better relationship, possibly even your true love.
Access Your Feminine Side
The best way for embracing the feminine in this fast-paced world is by slowing down. Take a moment and do this relaxing 11-minute meditation. I initially created it for myself. It’s my voice. 🙂 I still use it often! You’ll feel relaxed and refreshed in no time. Enjoy!
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I’m Anna-Thea, an author and Certified Divine Feminine Educator. If you’d like to get more connected to your feminine side check out my online course “Unlock Your Feminine Side with Love.”