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My Favorite Self-Care Strategy to Overcome Beauty Pressure!

Beauty pressure is real. As you age, it’s inevitable, you’ll be faced with the loss of your outer beauty. You’ll probably even become “invisible” in our society.

It happens! That’s why really loving, nurturing and caring for yourself is so important; no matter what age, shape, size, hair type, skin color, etc you are. You’re uniquely beautiful just the way you are!

I remember when I was in my 40’s, fewer and fewer men started looking my way. I was so used to having men turn their heads all of my young adult life. It was a huge transition as I began to notice men looking at other women but, not so often anymore, at me.

That was the beginning of my initiation into a deeper sense of self-love and self-care. And freedom from beauty pressure.

Do You Capture Men’s Attention?

If you’ve been capturing men’s attention most of your life you probably won’t be free from beauty pressure until you start becoming invisible. And it’s not a negative thing. It’s a rite of passage or initiation for you. The beginning of a new freedom for you. Freed from our society’s beauty pressure.

Happy to be me!

Think of it like this. If you’re used to having men look at your beauty, you have become consciously or unconsciously, dependant on it. It has given you your sense of self. But your outer beauty is not you. It’s your shell. And ultimately don’t you want to be loved for who you are and not how you look?

When I first started becoming invisible I realized how much I was basing my worth on whether or not a complete stranger would take a second look at me. As the glances stopped and I cultivated my own sense of self, I realized how crazy that was.

The way I cultivated my own sense of self, separate from my (fading) outer beauty was to increase self-care practices. And through that I created a more intimate, loving connection with myself.

My Favorite Self-Care Practice

Aging is an important part of your soul’s process. As you age you can’t get away with not treating your body nicely. Self-care practices are important.

I now have many self-care practices –

But my favorite is taking care of my skin

Your skin is the largest organ in your body. It’s important to take care of it. I use high-quality beauty oil. My sister has a haircare company called InnerSense and they make a special oil that I absolutely love.

Beauty pressure - Picture of harmonic healing oil with caption "My beauty secret in a bottle"

In Ayurveda, which is an ancient medical healing modality, they use oil to cleanse and nourish. It’s called abhyanga and is a form of self-massage. You can also go to spas that offer this treatment. It’s very balancing to your system and nourishing to your skin.

As we age we lose ojas which is an ayurvedic term for vigor or I think of it as your juice. Our glands aren’t as active and we can literally dry up. Using high-quality oil on your skin will keep you moist and juicy as you age. And your skin is the largest organ in your body! So not only is using oil on your whole body nourishing… it’s youthing!

I love my harmonic healing oil and using it not only on my face but for self-massage. I don’t use any fancy creams or gimmicky lotions. So many products have toxic perfumes or other unnatural substances. I just nourish myself with natural oil. And it keeps things simple.

I use this wonderful oil on my face, the tips of my hair when it’s dry, my breasts, my arms, my yoni. I’m free from beauty pressure because I’ve cultivated a “touch relationship” with my body. I believe that when you can feel yourself from the inside out, instead of seeing yourself from the outside in, the beauty pressure goes away.

Your Outer Beauty
Has a Short Shelf-Life

So just remember, your outer beauty has a short shelf-life and there is no avoiding that as you mature. Get to love and adore the inner you.

Do you feel pressured to look pretty? How much do you let it define you? Take 3.5 minutes and enjoy this inspiring video. I know you will love it. Start right now and claim your inner beauty.

What resonated most with you in this article and why? What can you apply in your life right now?

Leave a comment below and let me know. Thousands of other women come here each week for inspiration, information and wisdom. Your comment may provide support to someone else and be exactly what they needed to hear.

Thanks for being here and for adding your perspective. Please share this post with other women you love.

I’m Anna-Thea, an author and Divine Feminine Educator. I teach women how to reclaim their bodies as sacred. Women tell me, “I need to love myself more, I just don’t know how.” I have easy to use online courses that will give you the skills.

beauty pressure - picture of harmonic healing oil used to nourish your skin.
Nourish Your Inner Beauty
with Innersense Harmonic Healing Oil

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  1. Dayanara

    I turned 45 this year and in the last few months I’m noticing how my body is changing. I have noticed the dreaded “muffin top” becoming more pronounced in the last few months and I have to confess I’ve been obsessing about it for a few weeks. But instead of taking drastic measures (starvation diets, magic pills or creams, surgeries, etc) I’m taking this as an opportunity to truly commit to a healthier lifestyle that includes regular exercise, including cardio and muscle building work. As much as I adore yoga, it doesn’t provide me enough cardio and I have a sedentary job, and I know that how our bodies work really does change as we get older. So, I’m choosing to work with the changes instead of resisting them.

    What resonated a lot with me is “becoming invisible” in our culture as we get older and how men stop noticing/looking. I think this is true and it speaks volumes on what has value in our society – eternal youth. And staying young is a VERY profitable business.

    It’s exhausting and expensive to resist and “fight” the natural order to aging and I think ultimately this only damages an already fragile self-esteem.

    I loved the video too and will share on my FB page.
    Thanks for the article, it’s so timely for me and just reinforces what I know in my soul.

  2. Hi Dayanara! Thank you so much for your comment. You so clearly touched on what women go through. Loved how you described your experience and what you are going through. The aging process doesn’t need to be fear of loss of beauty. What I am finding is that it’s a journey of releasing the ATTACHMENT to my outer beauty and focusing more on developing a relationship with my soul which is far more radiant and beautiful. 🙂 I appreciate you making a comment and would welcome more comments from you on any of my blogs! Thanks Dayanara! And btw make friends with your “muffin top” Part of growing older, especially after menopause, is that you receive a new or different version of your body. It’s not a bad version… just a new version. 🙂

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