How to Use Feminine Energy to Connect With A Man
Knowing how to use feminine energy to connect with a man will help you create better, more authentic intimate relationship experiences in your life.
Have you ever suffered a breakup, knowing it was for the best but went back to him anyway hoping things would change? Or have you ever reached out to a guy that doesn’t even deserve your time and attention because you’re lonely?
Or maybe you’re the kind of gal who sends a text to a guy when your better judgment says wait for him to reach out to you instead. Do you ask guys out? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to know how to use feminine energy to connect with a man.
And you need to know how to honor and love your feminine side.
No matter how much we have liberated ourselves as women, men are still men and women are still women. You don’t need to be like a man to gain his affections. You need to be you, your authentic female self. That’s why, especially in this overly masculine world, it’s important to know how to use feminine energy to connect with a man.
What I am referring to is knowing how to use your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man.
The result will be you attracting a guy who is authentically interested in you. When this happens, it is very nurturing to your feminine soul.
So how do you use your feminine energy to connect with a man in a way that gives you what you are looking for? You do it by connecting to your authentic feminine as opposed to your inauthentic feminine.
In other words, connect to the power of your feminine side. I call it your Feminine Love Quotient. How much you love yourself as a woman. Secondly, become aware of the dark side of the feminine operating within you and your interactions with men.
Notice Your Behavior When Connecting with A Man
To know how to use feminine energy to connect with a man, it’s important to become aware of your behavior with him. Is it coming from a place of fullness or not? Are you connecting to him because you are lonely, wanting to feel attractive, or with the hope, he will pursue you? In other words, is he filling some type of hole in you that you should first fill within yourself? I see it often. Women connect with a man because of their insecurities.
Do you remember an old movie with Diane Keaton called “Looking for Mr. Goodbar”? It’s about a woman seeking love outside of herself. She begins to go clubbing at night and picks up men for one-night-stands as a way of getting excitement and sexual fulfillment without commitment. It doesn’t end like the fairy tales we are programmed to believe. She ends up being murdered during her professed last hookup.
I’m not here to judge your sexual activity or choices of who you share your body with. What I would like to stress here, is the way women are wired. We are wired to manifest more pleasure than most of us have experienced. And that is because women, women’s bodies, sexuality and sensual expression all thrive on being honored, revered and held as sacred.
If you don’t feel honored by a man, your Yoni (your female parts) will know it. Your head keeps trying tactics to get his attention but your Yoni knows different. The dark side of the feminine is when you’re disconnected from the wisdom of your Yoni and won’t listen to her. And when you’re disconnected from the wisdom of your Yoni you do things that aren’t in your highest good.
Dark Expression of the Feminine
The dark side of your feminine is expressed when you do things like…
- Have unenjoyable sex for security.
- Date a guy, not because you are truly interested in him, but rather because he provides other benefits; taking you on trips; buying you nice clothes; or taking you out to dinner and entertainment.
- Relate through disempowering neediness. Doing things like staying in an abusive relationship because you don’t have the confidence to leave. Or being with a guy because you say to yourself, “he needs me.”
- Be in a relationship where you are the only one in it. Your man benefits from all the wonderful things you do for the relationship but it goes barely or totally unreciprocated. You allow yourself to be in a relationship where it isn’t a partnership of caring and sharing. Possibly one of more duty and service or low-grade misery and frustration.
If you are stuck in any of these patterns it would benefit you to learn how to use your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man.
The Bright Side of Your Feminine
When you use your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man, you’ll get amazing results.
The bright side of the feminine is playful, transparent, and real. Not overly concerned with what others think. You understand outer beauty has a short shelf life, therefore, the foundation of your interactions with men come from your inner radiance.
When you are connected to the bright side of your feminine, you know. You feel confident. And you feel an inner power and radiance. It will attract to you all that you need. You no longer need to “energetically dance and prance and put on a happy face” to feel accepted by others.
Stillness, sensuality, and self-nurturing are a part of your life, always making sure you have enough time to take care of yourself emotionally. Feeling at home in your body is important to you. There is no need to overly flaunt yourself in front of men. They will already be attracted to you by your authentic feminine radiance.
It’s awesome because the right kind of men will be attracted to you by the radiance you have cultivated within. Men look up to you and feel lucky to be able to spend time with you. A man loves to be in a radiant woman’s energy field.
Develop Your Authentic Feminine Radiance
Knowing how to use feminine energy to connect with a man is a matter of becoming receptive. Men are the “outies.” Women are the “innies.” Masculine energy is focused outward energy. And feminine energy is receptive and nurturing.
You develop your authentic feminine radiance by becoming receptive and nurturing to YOU. This is how to use feminine energy to connect with a man, by first caring for you.
- Obsessing about a guy.
- Trying to “get” a guy.
- Asking guys out.
Let them come to you! Believe me, if they want you they will come to you. And those are the guys you want. The ones that are ready willing and able to participate in the relationship.
When you do this or stop doing the three previous things mentioned, your radiance will attract a man to you. And even from the other side of the country or world. Really!
All you have to do is take care of you. Be true to you. Tend to your emotions. Be there for yourself when you’re emotionally upset. Do things for yourself that allows you to feel supported, nurtured and authentically loved. Loved for who you are, not for who someone wants you to be.
Right Guys Show Up And Wonderful Things Happen when you know how to use your feminine energy to connect with a man
When you know how to use your feminine energy to connect with a man you will feel confident and joyful in your interactions with him because you won’t care if he finds you interesting, attractive, intelligent or anything. You’ll connect with him on a human level instead of with some agenda in mind. And he’ll consciously or unconsciously know that.
If the guy isn’t authentic himself he will fall to the wayside. This is a wonderful way to protect yourself from attracting the wrong guy. If he is a guy worth being with he will stick around.
When you learn how to use your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man the sex will be much deeper and profound. Your aura (energy field around you) will become larger. And you’ll attract even more wonderful things into your life. Your creative expression will also be ignited. And you may find yourself producing amazing creative projects.
When you learn how to use feminine energy to connect with a man a whole new world will open
I’m Anna-Thea, an author and educator. I support women in reclaiming their bodies and speaking authentically from their hearts. I can teach you how to use feminine energy to connect with a man. My on-line programs educate women in the Art of Self Love and Emotional Empowerment.