how to use feminine energy to connect with a man

How to Use Feminine Energy to Connect With A Man

Knowing how to use feminine energy to connect with a man helps you create better relationships. Are you ready to experience more love, fulfillment, acceptance and inner peace in your life? Are you tired of experiencing one relationship nightmare after another? Or at least one frustrating situation after another?

Red Flag Behavior

  • You broke up, knowing it was for the best but went back hoping things would change?
  • You reached out to a guy that doesn’t even deserve your time and attention because you were lonely?
  • You sent a text to a guy when your better judgment told you to wait for him to reach out?
  • You feel like you’re the one “creating” the relationship?
  • You ask guys out?

If you answered yes to any of these questions… I’m glad you’re here! You’ll benefit from learning how to use feminine energy to connect with a man.

I totally get it. I, just like you, want love. I’ve had to reach deeply inward accessing my feminine power and take care of myself emotionally in order to avoid getting caught up in unhealthy and toxic relationships.

And believe me, I’ve had plenty of opportunities to put this into practice. It’s helped me realize, unequivocally, that love is not outside of myself. And it’s definitely not found in me hoping and wishing for some guy’s attention and affections. It’s found by loving and honoring myself… especial my feminine side. That side of me that is healing, loving and nurturing.

Find out how much you honor and love your feminine side

No matter how much you have liberated yourself as women, men are still men and women are still women. You don’t need to be like a man to gain his affections. You need to be you, your authentic female self. That’s why, especially in this overly masculine world, it’s important to know how to use feminine energy to connect with a man.

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Be Authentically YOU

Your authentic feminine energy will attract a man worth keeping. The result… you’ll attract a guy who is authentically interested in you. When this happens, it’s very nurturing to your feminine soul.

So how do you use your feminine energy to connect with a man in a way that gives you what you’re looking for? That attracts the man you want?

First, you do it by connecting to your authentic feminine as opposed to your inauthentic feminine.

In other words, connect to the power of your feminine side and your authentic self. Not the person society has conditioned you to be, rather your authentic feminine self. I even designed a Love Quiz to help you get started in connecting with the real, authentic and powerfully divine feminine YOU. Because ultimately, self-love (divine love) is where your authentic power is.

Second, become aware of the dark side of the feminine operating within you.

What you are doing to attract a man with your femininity that’s not so healthy. Do you even know what “not so healthy” is? Start paying attention to your interactions with men. Are they coming from a place of fear, possibly that you’re not good enough? Or are they coming from a place of love, that you are perfect whole and complete just the way you are?

Learn how to connect with a man beyond the sexual attraction that you may be feeling. And if you’re not attracted to him then be authentic about it. You don’t have to be mean…. just authentic. Don’t engage with him with a sexual undercurrent. Learn new skills and new ways of being with a man beyond thinking all you have to offer is your sexual attractiveness.

Notice Your Behavior When Connecting with A Man

To know how to use feminine energy to connect with a man, it’s important to become aware of your behavior with him. Is it sexual, emotional, authentic, physical, manipulative, agenda oriented, etc? Is it coming from a place of fullness or not?

Are you connecting to him because you’re lonely, wanting to feel attractive, or hoping he’ll pursue you? In other words, is he filling some type of hole in you that you should first fill within yourself? I see it often. Women connect with a man because of their insecurities.

Do you remember an old movie with Diane Keaton called “Looking for Mr. Goodbar”? It’s about a woman seeking love outside of herself. 

She begins to go clubbing at night and picks up men for one-night-stands as a way of getting excitement and sexual fulfillment without commitment. It doesn’t end like the fairy tales we are programmed to believe. She ends up being murdered during her professed last hookup.

I’m not here to judge your sexual activity or choices of who you share your body with. What I would like to stress here, is the way women are wired. We are wired to manifest more pleasure but we are also wired with busy minds that keep us from pleasure.

And if you don’t know how to quiet your mind and be in your body your sex life will suffer. That’s why most women haven’t experienced their full pleasure potential. And that’s because women, women’s bodies, their sexuality, and sensual expression all thrive on being honored, revered and held as sacred.

Your Yoni Wants to Be Honored

If you don’t feel honored by a man, your Yoni (your female parts) will know it. Your head keeps trying tactics to get his attention but your Yoni knows different.

The dark side of the feminine is when you’re disconnected from the wisdom of your Yoni and won’t listen to her. And when you’re disconnected from the wisdom of your Yoni you do things that aren’t in your highest good.

Are You Expressing Dark Feminine Energy?

The dark side of your feminine is expressed when you do things like…

  • Have unenjoyable sex for security.
  • Date a guy, not because you are truly interested in him, but rather because he provides other benefits; taking you on trips; buying you nice clothes; or taking you out to dinner and entertainment.
  • Relate through disempowering neediness. Doing things like staying in an abusive relationship because you don’t have the confidence to leave. Or being with a guy because you say to yourself, “he needs me.”
  • Be in a relationship where you are the only one in it. Your man benefits from all the wonderful things you do for the relationship but it goes barely or totally unreciprocated. You allow yourself to be in a relationship where it isn’t a partnership of caring and sharing. Possibly one of more duty and service or low-grade misery and frustration.

If you’re stuck in any of these patterns you’ll benefit by learning how to use your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man.

8 Examples of The Bright Side
of Your Feminine

When you use your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man, you’ll get amazing results. It’s about knowing how to exude feminine energy in a new way. Here are some examples.

1. Being playful, transparent, and real.

2. Not overly concerned with what others think.

3. Understand that outer beauty has a short shelf life. Cultivate your inner radiance.

4. The foundation of your interactions with men come from your inner radiance rather than your insecurities.

5. You have an inner knowing and confidence that radiates your inner power. Which attracts to you all that you need.

6. You no longer need to “energetically dance around and put on a happy face” to feel accepted by men.

7. Stillness, sensuality, and self-nurturing are a big part of your life, always making sure you have enough time to take care of yourself emotionally.

8. You feel at home in your body and there’s no need to overly flaunt yourself in front of men. They’ll already be attracted to you by your authentic feminine radiance.

It’s awesome because the right kind of men will be attracted to you by the radiance you have cultivated within. Your energy will know how to attract men who are good for you.

You’ll be the energy you want to attract; loving, nurturing, confident etc. Men will look up to you and feel lucky to spend time with you. A man loves to be in a radiant woman’s energy field.

The Key To Developing Your Authentic Feminine Radiance

Knowing how to use feminine energy to connect with a man is a matter of becoming receptive. Men are the “outies.” Women are the “innies.” Masculine energy is focused outward energy. And feminine energy is receptive and nurturing.

You develop your authentic feminine radiance by becoming receptive and nurturing to YOU. Really knowing how to take care of yourself emotionally. This is how to use feminine energy to connect with a man, by first caring for you.


  • Obsessing about a guy.
  • Trying to “get” a guy.
  • Asking guys out.

Let them come to you! Believe me, if they want you they will come to you. And those are the guys you want. The ones that are ready willing and able to participate in the relationship.

When you do this or stop doing the three previous things mentioned, your radiance will attract a man to you. And even from the other side of the country or world. Really! The man I married in my mid 40’s was a man who called me, out of the blue, from another state.

He was referred to me by someone who knew how passionate I was about yoga and holding couples workshops. He was looking for a place to hold a workshop. I ended up hosting the workshop. That was the beginning of our love journey. He came out of nowhere! All I had to do was be me!

All you have to do is take care of you. Get on with your life and what’s most important to you. Be true to you. Tend to your emotions. Be there for yourself when you’re emotionally upset. Do things for yourself that allows you to feel supported, nurtured and authentically loved. Loved for who you are, not for who someone wants you to be.

Right Guys Show Up and Wonderful Things Happen…

when you know how to use your feminine energy to connect with a man.

When you know how to use your feminine energy to connect with a man you will feel confident and joyful in your interactions with him because you won’t care if he finds you interesting, attractive, intelligent or anything. You’ll connect with him on a human level instead of with some agenda in mind. And he’ll consciously or unconsciously know that.

If the guy isn’t authentic himself he will fall to the wayside. This is a wonderful way to protect yourself from attracting the wrong guy. If he is a guy worth being with he will stick around.

When you learn how to use your divine feminine energy to connect with a man the sex will be much deeper and profound. Your aura (energy field around you) will become larger. And you’ll attract even more wonderful things into your life.

Your creative expression will also be ignited. And you may find yourself producing amazing creative projects. When you learn how to use the healthy aspects of your feminine energy to attract a man a whole new world will open up to you.

What can you do to express your authentic feminine today?

Did this article resonate with you? I would love to hear from you. What can you do to turn insights from this article into action right now?
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I’m Anna-Thea, an author and Certified Divine Feminine Educator. I educate women on how to connect to the sacredness of their feminine side. If you are ready to learn more check out my online course “Unlock Your Divine Feminine Power with Love

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  1. Grace

    This is an amazing article. I am just recognizing my femininity. I came of a long abusive relationship, where their was no room for me. I truly want to learn more, especially of how to love me more.

  2. Diane

    If you tell a guy you’re interested in him is that masculine energy? Especially if you’re the first one to say it

  3. Hi Diane! Good question! I would say it all depends on the energy around it. How did you say it? Were you energetically aggressive? Did you have expectations? Did you want something to happen? Or did you feel calm, soft and open when you said it?

  4. Hi Grace! Thanks for your comment. And thanks for what you shared. I totally get the idea of “no room for me.” So many people don’t feel acknowledged or important in their closest relationship and that is painful! Would love to support you in upping your self-love. Hope you have taken my Love Test that I created for women. If not here is the link It will show you what percent you love your feminine side! 🙂

  5. Karly

    What a wonderful article and a really important topic.

    What practical ways would you suggest for single women to navigate this when dating?

  6. Hi Karly!
    Thanks for your question. Practical ways to navigate your feminine energy when dating is to simply be receptive but also in your truth. Really notice your motives as you interact. Are they coming from a place of confidence or a place of insecurity? Do you feel comfortable enough to show the “real you” while you are on the date? One of the most straight forward practical ways to use your feminine energy to attract a man is to 1) Let him ask you out. 2) Let him pay for the date. This may sound old fashion but it’s great practice for becoming receptive. Which is a feminine quality.

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