How to Take Care of Yourself Without Being Selfish
How to take care of yourself without being selfish – this is the problem! Women think of taking care of themselves is selfish! Do you feel guilty when you do things for yourself or take time for yourself? We’ve been programmed that tending to ourselves and our truth, is bad. This could be further from the truth.
How to take care of yourself without being selfish, especially for women, is an oxymoron!
I want to stress that taking care of yourself is NOT selfish. You don’t need to learn how to take care of yourself without being selfish. What you need to learn is the importance of taking care of yourself and how everyone else benefits when you do.
Sensing Into Ourselves and Others
Women are the ones who gestate, birth and typically care for our offspring. It is important for a woman to have the skills to take care of another. It is important for a mother to tune into a baby who is unable to speak in words but rather cries and moans letting her know of his/her discomfort.
Newborns are extremely vulnerable. Children are like sponges absorbing everything, unguarded from their environment. If a mother was unable to tune into her child the rate of survival of our species would be lower. If she was unable to sacrifice her needs for her child’s, maybe the child might not live.
The ability for a woman to sense into another is a beautiful quality. Good mothering requires this and a tremendous amount of compassion, nurturing and patience. Good mothering requires the fine art of sensing into the subtle energies and signals from her offspring.
The issue is when she stops sensing into herself.
When her life becomes all about others and she puts herself and her needs on the back burner. The problem is a society that doesn’t have positive, nurturing and empowering structures and systems in place to fully support the child-rearing process. That is another subject.
Mothering is a huge life assignment. What I would like to say to mother’s is don’t forget to sense into yourself while caring for others. Don’t leave yourself behind. Understand the importance of how to take care of yourself without being selfish.
Caring for others in a state of depletion is not really caring for others. I believe that is more selfish. If you want to give and not be resentful, give from a place of fullness. You’ll prevent cultivating resentment in your relationships.
I wish all the super mom’s of the world started developing healthy boundaries and knew how to take care of themselves emotionally. Are you one of those super moms? You know a woman who takes care of the kids, takes care of your other child (your husband), do all or most of the housework and possibly even holds down a full-time job? All the while, possibly thinking you aren’t doing enough or you aren’t doing it good enough?
Thinking you are selfish for taking care of yourself is
long outdated behavior. Stop!
If you have found yourself in this position you have lost both your truth and your radiance. Nobody wants to be a doormat. What are you role modeling to your children? And if your man is like a child, what type of relationship role model are you showing your kids?
If you are in this situation or anywhere near or like what I just described, are you more in your misery than in your truth? Does over giving to the point of depletion bring you joy? You have become a victim of an energy vampire and need to protect yourself. Overgiving is overrated and it’ll rob you of your radiance.
Your Radiance is Your Power
Let’s face it, giving is a beautiful thing. However, giving without allowing for receiving is unhealthy, dysfunctional and life robbing.
Women are the “innies”, we are the anatomical depiction of receptivity and receiving. Knowing how to receive is extremely important for your health. It is also a big part of being able to take care of yourself.
When a woman is receptive she is in a state of pleasure. Pleasure is good for women. I now call this vitamin P. Vitamin P is an important nutrient for women. If you are a woman that doesn’t know how to receive, sexually or otherwise your health will suffer.
When you open your receptive channels and experience more pleasure in your life, you become radiant. A woman’s radiance is powerful.
Our society has it all mixed up regarding radiance and taking care of yourself
We think radiance is for the youth and taking care of yourself is selfish as mentioned earlier. There is too much emphasis on looking good instead of feeling good. There is too much emphasis on outer beauty in our society instead of caring for your inner radiance. Outer beauty has a short shelf life. Inner beauty, your radiance, is eternal.
When you learn how to take care of yourself without feeling selfish and give yourself more of the most important female nutrient, vitamin P, you will shine from the inside out. You’ll become more confident as a woman and especially as an aging woman in a society that emphasizes outer beauty.
When you are radiant, you are happy, your heart is open, you are loving and giving from a place of fullness. This is not only good for yourself, this is good for all your relationships and for society.
Taking care of yourself without feeling selfish is the best community work you can do
Your radiance provides service to others. It lifts them up. Remember, if mama isn’t happy nobody is.
Learning how to take care of yourself without being selfish is simply to make taking care of yourself, your authentic self, a top priority. Everything else in your life will fall into place. Your relationships will be either gone or more harmonious, your body will feel better, your emotions will be more balanced and your radiance will bring the much-needed light our society needs to create a better world.
Everything else in your life will fall into place. Your relationships will be either gone or more harmonious, your body will feel better, your emotions will be more balanced and your radiance will bring the much-needed light our society needs to create a better world.
I’m Anna-Thea, an author, and divine feminine educator. I believe women are the Leaders of Love. If we are to have peace on the planet it will come by awakening our divine feminine. If this article resonated with you find out more by checking out my online courses.
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